Monday, 3 March 2014

Cinder-gate

Well sadly there was no happy ending for Cinderella this time!

I received a phone call from my mum the following morning (must be serious if she is ringing me during the day!), asking what was going on.  I read the facebook messages I had received up to that point, which my mum wasn't impressed with!  She had been phoned by my aunt the previous evening to discuss what had been said.  The day after all this I received several abusive messages on facebook from my cousin which were an attack on me, my character, my stitching and my life in general.  It was so bad that I ended up blocking her on facebook - which took me a while as I have never blocked anyone before!

I phoned my mum to tell her what had been happening and she said she already knew as my aunt had phoned or texted her to tell her how rude my cousin had been towards me.

Anyway to cut a long story short, I am keeping Cinderella so as not to have wasted 2 years of stitching time. My mum wanted to send my aunt the money back herself as she was so disgusted with my cousin's rudeness and attitude but as far as I was concerned it was given to me and so up to me to return.  So a cheque has been written and returned to my aunt along with the magazine so that either she can get someone else to stitch it or she can do whatever she likes with it!

I had thoroughly enjoyed stitching this design and although it would have been hard to see her go, I was prepared for it and happy to send her on to her new home, just not like this.  Cinders is currently on my WIP shelf, where I am avoiding looking at her for the time being.  There is a huge part of me that feels like a failure and that I should have just sent her as she was and let them do what they wanted with her.  I do think that had I done that though, there would have been little/no chance of her ever getting finished.

My plan is to leave her for a few weeks and to see if any more is said by my aunt or cousin and then finish stitching her for my Rachael instead...not as a birth sampler though!

Please feel free to comment/vent/rant over the outcome if you would like to, either comments or via email.


24 comments:

Katie said...

So sorry it wasn't a more happy end result.

Robin said...

So sorry. Families just sometimes just stink! I bet your cousin has no crafting inclinations so she has no idea the amount of work and time or love and passion we put into our stitching.

So sorry you had to go through this ((hugs))

Linda said...

I think you made a wise choice Sharon. Your daughter will love it.

Linda

SoCal Debbie said...

Well, at least you didn't give Cinder to your cousin, and then get blasted on Facebook by her! Rachael will love it!

Pam in IL said...

I'm sorry that you've had to deal with drama through facebook. It's certainly stressful. I hope that you find some peace in this situation and don't be so hard on yourself.

Lesley said...

Looking forward to seeing Cinders finished for your daughter,who I'm sure will treasure her... and appreciate your hours of stitching.

Cath said...

Not a totally happy ending family wise , but stitching wise I think it is for the best. To spend that amount of time on something for someone who doesn't appreciate it would have caused you a lot of upset.
At least your Aunt knows hoe rude your cousin has been and will hopefully act to do something about that. Your stitching will be treasured by your daughter I'm sure . xxx

Annie said...

Sounds like your aunt and your mom are backing you, and a cousin that rude and hateful doesn't deserve your beautiful stitching.
Sorry you had to go through all the drama, but I hope you and your daughter enjoy Cinderella for many years to come, and someday chuckle over her misadventure!

Mii Stitch said...

Your cousin needs to learn a bit about respect! There is absolutely no need to criticise people - especially via FB - when they have actually spent a few years of their spare time making something for them!!! How ungrateful! Does she realise all her friends will know about this & probably judge her too? Anyway, looks like you have everyone's support on this. I'm so glad you are going to keep it because she certainly doesn't deserve it. I'm sure your daughter will treasure it forever. Hugs xxxxx

Rhona said...

I'm glad Cinders will be going to someone who will appreciate her.

Justine said...

As others have said, it's a sad outcome for your family but at least your hard work will be appreciated.

Marlene Jones said...

Families............says it all, remember how you enjoyed stitching it, and enjoy her when she is finished xx

stitchersanon said...

I hate how people use fb as a personal platform. There is just no need and it is amounts to washing dirty knickers in public, and you arent always sure how big that public domain is... I think the poor stitched miss is yours, simple as that. She never wanted to leave you and now she is def. yours. Re family, well she could have contacted you privately and it could have been dealted with in a much nicer fashion. Pay her back and keep your stitching because I doubt it would have been appreciated anyway.

Brita said...

One more reason not to join facebook... I was really horrified how your cousin treated you. There was absolutely no need to and and then doing so on a social media platform makes it even worse.
You have done the right thing though and Rachael will just love her, especially after so much heartbreak.

Andrea said...

So sorry, but she doesn't deserve the stitched piece all that time and effort. I do hope your daughter loves it.

Jo who can't think of a clever nickname said...

What can I say? She definitely doesn't deserve this beautiful piece. Rachael is a much more suitable owner.

FB is weird. A friend of mine commented on her cousin's post which then appeared in my newsfeed. I watched in fascinated horror as her cousin and his partner proceeded to break up on FB in public!!! Come on people, at least pm each other not in public!!

Jan Jones said...

I'm glad your keeping Cinders. Some people just don't get the time and patience that goes into stitching a large project. The same thing happened between me and my younger sister. I was finishing up stitching "To Love and Cherish" by Sandy Orton for her and her soon to be second husband. When I over heard her bad mouthing me in the worst way possible to my father. I swore after I gave them the finished piece I would never stitch anything for her/family/or relatives again.

Jeanne said...

I don't stitch generally for other people who aren't crafters themselves as they really don't understand how much work we put into these things. I probably would've have just picked an alphabet of my own and gone with it as a non-stitcher doesn't really understand how it all has to fit together etc. But she had no right to badmouth you over it! What a shame, I'm sorry you had this unpleasantness. It all comes down to treating people with consideration which she obviously didn't have.

Elfie said...

I'm sorry for your distress. It's odd how things work out sometimes. Maybe you were always destined to keep Cinders in your home. Hugs.

Shirlee said...

I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I think you have made the right decision & I'm sure that Rachael will be thrilled to have Cindy : )

Lesleyanne said...

So sorry you have had to go through this. I am sure your daughter will love Cinderella. Take Care xx

Angela P said...

Cinderella will have the wonderful home she deserves with you and your Daughter. Sorry you had to go through all this :)

Faith... said...

Sorry about the drama (as always I am late to read posts). I am happy you are keeping it for yourself! I would have been so mad if I had sent it to someone and they did not appreciate it; and it sounds as though she would have never appreciated it. You tried and you did your best to accommodate her - so don't feel bad about it either!

geeky Heather said...

Good grief!!! I can't imagine how people think this is an acceptable way to act! Hopefully you can disassociate Cinderella from these bad vibrations and enjoy her eventually.